In order to begin gaining control of your anger, you must first understand what anger is. Many people believe that anger is a negative emotion that is unhealthy and self destructive. However, that is far from the truth. Anger is a necessary emotion that helps individuals better understand how they feel about a certain situation or a person. That being said, it is the reaction to anger that influences the outcome of a situation or a thought. Everyone gets angry from time to time. It is our human nature to feel, and can’t be— and should not be–avoided. Just like sadness or joy, anger is there to help us deal with everyday life. There are many unhealthy ways to deal with anger and most people choose to go that route because of how overwhelming it can be. Some get aggressive right away, verbally abusing the person or situation that causes them to feel anger, while others choose to break something. But the most unhealthy way to deal with anger is to completely ignore it. Anger can only be ignored for so long before it consumes you. Anger is not something that just goes away— it needs to be dealt with in a healthy manner, hence anger management, not anger elimination.
Healthy Tips To Manage Your Anger
The primary goal of anger management is not to suppress your anger, but rather to understand the message behind the emotion and find a way to express it in a healthy way without losing control. Learning how to express your anger in a healthy way will have tremendous benefits in your interpersonal and professional life. The first step to mastering the art of anger management is understanding where the anger is coming from, and why you feel the way you do. Once you figure out the source of your anger, you will be able to communicate your emotions and move towards taking constructive actions to find a healthy solution. Self awareness is a very important part of anger management, specifically the moments leading up to anger or an outburst. There are physical warning signs that you should look out for before your anger gets out of control.
These warning signs include:
Once you are able to identify these warning signs before being consumed by your anger, you will need to learn healthy ways to cool down. Taking a deep breath sounds like a bad cliche, but in reality is a very big part of calming your mind and lowering heart rate. Another healthy tip is going for a walk and clearing your mind in order to identify what it is you are angry about. Mindfulness is perhaps the most important weapon in your anger management arsenal. When we get angry, it’s easy to look in the past to justify our anger and assign blame. However, staying in the present is a more efficient way to find a solution. Letting anger consume you will not solve anything or build anything positive, but it can destroy everything.
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